Navigating the modern dating scene is complicated enough, but users on Reddit recently proved that everyone has their own unique set of dealbreakers. Instead of focusing on dangerous or toxic behaviors, these individuals shared the oddly specific red flags that instantly make them lose interest in a potential partner. While some of these personal boundaries are completely normal and fairly common, others are so incredibly bizarre that they might leave you scratching your head. From harmless conversational habits to strange lifestyle choices, read on to discover the highly specific dating quirks people simply refuse to compromise on.
“someone who doesn’t flush after using the toilet”
“I never thought I had to explicitly say that, but after my last ex it is on my list of dealbreakers”
“”fluent in sarcasm””
“I just got back on the apps and it’s a nightmare, but any profile that says “fluent in sarcasm” is an immediate no. That’s just code for “I’m an as**ole and I think it’s funny to be an as**ole.””
“People who use their cars as trash cans”
“and especially when they make no effort to clean it before seeing me. I get so skeeved out when I’m picked up and have to brush aside fast food wrappers.”
“trying to be an influencer IS toxic”
“For me personally it’s anyone who is actively trying to be an influencer on social media.”
“believes the earth is flat”
“I didn’t think I’d have to worry about this, but I now have to add “believes the earth is flat” to my list of dealbreakers to watch out for.”
“People who need to be texting/calling their partner 24/7. “
“It’s just nice to turn off my phone for a couple hours and not worry about someone getting mad I’m not responding. Then, when we do speak we have more to catch up on.”
“No sense of humor.”
“I genuinely cannot connect with people who have no humor, and I will not waste my time trying.”
“I need my alone time”
“I can’t be with someone who wants to spend every second together. I want to love our time together, but also have our own things going on.”
“Bad table manners”
“Especially chewing with your mouth open. I cannot deal with it and will see red lol”
“Lacking emotional or intellectual depth to our conversations”
“I casually dated a guy for awhile who just didn’t have a whole lot going on when it came to deep thought. Ended up being a pretty hard no for me. “
“Poor communication skills”
“For example, not being to articulate an issue without arguing or getting loud, being defensive, jumping to conclusions instead of asking “what do you mean by that” etc. I absolutely refuse to engage with people like this, especially regarding partnership.”
“Chewing tobacco”
“No. If I wanna be in the proximity of a cow chewing its cud, I’ll just go tour a dairy farm”
“When you go to someone’s place for the first time and it’s crusty”
“I immediately get a That’s So Raven vision into the future where I’m cleaning up after them forever.”
“Someone who doesn’t understand why dinosaurs are awesome”
“would never be a good match for me”
“Men who don’t read fiction as a rule”
“There’s something desperately unserious about trying to look so serious.”
“Medical and military careers”
“Between the weird scheduling, the egos, their job being by default the most important thing in both of our lives…no. Pass.”
“Dreamers”
“Specifically the ones who constantly talk about all the things that they are going to do but with little to no follow through to makes that happen.”
“Dry one word answers”
“if I have to carry the conversation now I will have to carry the whole relationship.”
“Open-mindedness.”
“I’ll never ever get into a relationship with someone who once in a while can’t put themselves in others shoes and see the bigger picture. It usually implies a lack of empathy.”
“They can’t hate cats”
“The men I dated that hated them didn’t respect boundaries and had control issues”
“Specifically omitting having children on his profile”
“and then offhandedly mentioning that he has 4!!!”
“Someone who is a “just see where the day takes us” kind of person.”
“I plan. I like having a plan. It causes me stress when people are always late, changing the plan, or refuse to have one. Could not take it in a partner”
“Loud chewers.”
“And people whose energy is the complete opposite of mine. I like relationships where neither of us has to slow down for the other.”
“Bad bathroom habits.”
“If I hear they didn’t wash their hands or see they missed when aiming for the toilet and didn’t wipe it up after. That’s my very specific red flag.”
“Saying “I can’t/don’t cook””
“And never intending to learn while surviving off things like chips and nuggets. It’s as if their lack of self care and basic life skills is a badge of honor”
“I like intellectual curiosity.”
“Not a genius or a walking encyclopedia, but someone who’s well-read, keeps up with what’s happening in the world, enjoys learning, and can hold a stimulating conversation. I’ve met plenty of genuinely nice and kind men but if the conversation doesn’t engage me, I just can’t force it.”
“Doesnt like animals and/or is mean to them.”
“Thats a no from me dawg.”
“People who interrupt a lot.”
“Stresses me out.”
