They say love can conquer all, but is that really true when faced with all-consuming careers or obsessive hobbies? Sometimes, a relationship falls apart not due to a lack of affection, but because of the external pressures of a high-demand lifestyle. These 30 Reddit users shared a the specific path that seem to lead straight to heartbreak. Ranging from high-stakes professions to niche interests that demand far too much attention. Whether you are curious about what effectively acts as a “kiss of death” for romance or just want to see if your own habits made the cut, this list is an eye-opener.
Entertainment Love
“Hollywood couples who have stayed together are like unicorns”
“Anything that puts you under public scrutiny.”
“Not many marriages can survive that.”
“Statistically it’s any job or hobby that keeps you away for extended periods.”
“Touring musicians, pilots, flight attendants, long-haul maritime workers etc.”
“Ironman competition.”
“My dad gave it up to be a more present father and husband. It takes a lot of time in training to be truly competitive.”
“something about solo burning man seems to make you speed run divorce”
“i’ve seen 3/3 couples get divorced after only one of them going to burning man. could be that they were already in a rough spot that led to them not going together”
“Gambling or any kind of addiction really.”
“Drained and destroyed my family for decades.”
“Divorce attorney”
“if my experience is anything to go by.”
“Navy Seals divorce rate is like 76%.”
“That’s why I would never be one.”
“Medical school and residency.”
“Most everyone we knew who was married going into medical school got divorced before completing their residency. Many didn’t make it through medical school.”
“Physics PhDs.”
“Pull up a book on quantum mechanics on Amazon and it recommended related books for handling divorce.”
“Horse girls.”
“Horses are so expensive and take so much time, if your SO isn’t into that hobby, it usually doesn’t end well.”
“A nurse and a cop”
“Very high divorce rate”
“Pickleball”
“(look at how many marriages the # 1 player in the world has ended)”
“And massive betrayals of trust (cheating)”
“The Gottman institute has studied this for decades. It’s the way people do arguments.”
“pokemon cards”
“cuz some of the people collecting are just gambling addicts digging themselves into debt.”
“fitness”
“If they did a study about the amount of people who get into fitness and leave their partner when they look better and feel better and think they deserve an upgrade I think the number would surprise a lot of people”
“Working on a rig/Oil field work.”
“Or offshore towing….. minimum 28 days at a time…”
“Swinging.”
“Opening the bedroom doesn’t “save a marriage” it just delays the inevitable and compounds the emotional trauma.”
“Gambling. Financial stress. And the lying.”
“Its effectivly stealing the partners hopes and dreams from them.”
“Business.”
“Specifically small businesses. It’s highly stressful and low profit (or even loss making) if you factor in the hours you are putting. Plus you are essentially gambling with your savings, vacation money and your kid’s future prospects. It is not for the faint hearted.”
“Building your dream home together.”
“Between the stress of dealing with your contractor, the cost, and the constant compromise so neither spouse really gets their dream, divorce is often the outcome before the house is even finished in some cases.”
“Polyamory”
“Yeah SOMETIMES it works out but exceptions don’t prove the rule. We are all human and are wired to have the same needs, sure, for a very tiny amount of the population it can work but most people who try it aren’t that group of people.”
“Ufologist”
“or bigfoot hunter.”
“Anything that sets a distance between your partner and you.”
“This can be a new job at a new country, volatile jobs where you have to be away for months..etc.”
“High intensity blue collar jobs like Industrial Cleaning and Hydroblasting. “
“Basically all of upper management is divorced or drunks constantly fighting with their spouses. The higher up my husband gets, the more I kind of see why some people fail to make it work. It’s insanely frustrating to put up with sometimes.”
“Neurosurgeon.”
“The average number of divorces per neurosurgeon is over 1.5”
“Police.”
“And it’s not because of the hours, shifts or danger. Infidelity is endemic. Over time the police men/ women I’ve known develop a sense of superiority and generally start to treat their spouse as beneath them. If the cheating doesn’t end it, that does. “
“Something like 80%+.”
“Apparently the meat-packing and slaughter-house industries have extremely high rates of divorce for their employees.”
“Nat Geo photographer”
“I heard a Nat Geo photographer at a conf say that majority of their photographers are mostly divorced”
” Especially if kids are a factor.”
“Content creation unless the other person is either into it themselves or extremely supportive.”
