Where did all the manners go? Back in the 1960s, being a gentleman wasn’t a performance, it was standard. Men had the skills to make a good impression on a date, deal with a disagreement, and offer basic courtesies that made life easier for everyone. We’re calling for a return to class! Let’s look again at the habits of true gentlemen that deserve a comeback.
Get in the taxi first
Don’t make your date work hard. Jump in first, slide over, and save her the awkward move across the seat. It’s a simple gesture that shows you value her comfort.
When things get heated, take a step back
No gentleman ever shouts in public. If things start to get heated, take a breath, cool down, and don’t raise your voice. Control your reaction and act like a man.
Always have a jacket ready to offer
If it gets chilly on their walk that evening, she gets the jacket, no questions asked. Just drape it over her or help her slide it on. It’s a classic move, and it’s automatic.
Make sure she gets home safe
Don’t play games. Take her to her door, or at the very least, send a quick text saying, “Let me know you got in okay.” It’s just basic courtesy, not a commitment to a second date.
Take that hat off indoors
Hats are great, but let’s keep the respect cooler. If you’re planning to stay here for a while, take off your hat. If you keep it on, it says, “I’m running out of here fast.” Show you’re present.
Hold doors open for everyone
This isn’t just about women; it’s about being a decent human being. Be sure to hold the door for people with luggage, the elderly, or anyone behind you. A little effort now can save you a lot of time later.
Buy her flowers for no reason
Save the big bouquet for the big event. The real win? Bringing her flowers without a special occasion is a great way to show your affection. It’s a simple, unexpected gesture that she’ll really appreciate.
Pull out her chair
Stand up, pull out her chair, and let her sit. It’s a classic move, but it shows respect right off the bat and makes you stand out from the crowd. People will definitely notice the gesture.
Walk on the curbside
Always put yourself between her and the street. It’s like a metaphorical wall against danger, or, less dramatically, a way to avoid getting splashed by a passing car. Make sure your date is safe.
Share your umbrella
She spent more time on her hair than you did. If it rains, she’ll need an umbrella. Just hold it over her head, even if you get a little wet.
Make reservations and have a plan
Let’s put an end to the whole “What do you want to do?” drama. Be decisive. Make the reservation, choose the spot, and take charge. A date isn’t a committee meeting where no one takes charge.
Send a handwritten note over a text
Anyone can text “thx.” Handwritten notes require effort, planning, and permanence. It slows down time and shows that you value the connection over convenience.
Follow up on little things mentioned
“How did that presentation go last week?” Paying attention to the little things shows you’re really listening, not just waiting to speak up. That’s a deep level of connection.
Pick up the phone and call
It’s time to stop hiding behind the keyboard. A real laugh and a sincere tone are things texting just can’t recreate. Pick up the phone and show you want a real conversation.
Stand up when she arrives or leaves the table
This small yet meaningful gesture is a sign of true respect. Stand up when she arrives and when she leaves. It’s a quick, fleeting recognition of her presence.
Help her put on her coat
Don’t just hand it to her. Have the coat ready to go, and help her put her arms into the sleeves and pull it onto her shoulders. This physical assist makes for a smooth and elegant exit.
Always give up your seat
Whether you’re on the bus, train, or in a packed room, if she’s standing, you sit down. If you’re able, try offering your seat to a woman or anyone who needs it more. It’s a subtle way of showing respect.
Use proper table etiquette
Put your napkin on your lap, elbows off the table, and chew with your mouth closed. These simple rules aren’t old-fashioned; they’re the foundation of respectful dining that makes everyone at the table comfortable.
Offer her your arm for escort
When you’re going up and down stairs, walking on icy sidewalks, or in a busy room, offer your arm. It’s a way of showing you’re a reliable partner, giving her stability, and letting her know you’re paying attention and focused on her.
Don’t let her carry the heavy bags
If she’s carrying anything (like groceries, a briefcase, or a heavy box), it’s your job to take it. Don’t ask, just take it. Easing her burden is a straightforward, non-negotiable duty.
